Assess the state of your life. When people have the time to stop and consider who they are outside the busy context of their jobs, they discover that they might have let all the other essentials of healthful living fall out of balance: family relationships, commitment to community, eating and exercise habits, spending.
When you slow down long enough to look closely at who you’ve become, you may be afraid of what you might see. Try not to judge yourself too harshly. Use the new information as important data to reorganize your priorities and discover how to live the rest of your life according to your values.
Reacquaint yourself with your own values. The sense of who you are may have changed so much that your sense of who you are and what’s important to you have been long outdated.
Reacquaint yourself with what has been your life’s purpose. That probably hasn’t changed. That’s okay because your sense of purpose should transcend the short-terms phases of your life.
Remind yourself of the contributions you’ve made, skills you’ve built, and what makes you unique in the world. There have been forces at work to hammer away at your self-esteem, so you need to counteract them. Self-praising is an important part of regrouping. Keep those ideas about yourself positive, current, and in the forefront of your mind.
Stay away from pain-numbing, mood-altering behaviors. Vigorous exercise is the best way to purge rage.
Enlist the support of cooperative and non-judgmental friends and family. Any kind of loss is ameliorated through intimate relationships with close friends and family members with whom you can be yourself.
Keep doing the things you loved doing before. Build in time to do those things that give you positive emotions. That will help you find a place within you where you start feeling stronger which will help you to move forward more quickly.
Build up your resiliency and restore your faith in yourself with the attitude of “what can I do to make a difference today?” You have a choice to be either victimized by what happened to you and stay that way or rally the forces of the skills that brought you to that job you just lost, and use them to the greater good.
Work with others to get the job done … and get a job. Work with coaches and leader-managed support groups to help you focus on the task at hand, which is to get a new job.